ugh!!!!

Jessica · 08-12-2008, 10:21 AM

So I guess everyone knows that I have PMDD. I am not taking my medicine at this point because it makes me so freaky tired that I get nothing done!

Last night I was not really in the mood but I knew that dh was and I am about to start so I thought I would be nice. I showered, shaved my legs, and wore a thong to bed. Dh asked why I was "dressed up". I said that I thought he would like it. For some reason this started a stupid fight about me making this ALL about him. I told him that marriage was give and take. Just because I wasn't "in the mood" didn't mean that I couldn't get in the mood.

To make a long stupid fight shorter, I'll cut to the hurtful part. He says no matter what I do or what happens I'm going to be wrong and you're going to be mad. I was like WTF?!?! Apparently I have been mean to him and hurtful to him all because I'm about to start. I seriously have no freaking idea what he is talking about. The only thing I can think of is yesterday morning (6:30am) I got up with Sarah and as I got back into bed he said I thought you were going to the gym. Um, I'm half asleep that didn't come across well. I said that I messed up my alarm. He then says I heard it go off!! I was like yes it did but I guess I hit the off button instead of snooze. I'm thinking stop grilling me!! What does it matter at that point?
That is the only time that I can remember that I was "mean" to him.

I'm really hurt because if any of this is true I feel that he should gentley call me out when I am in one of my "moods". He should not hold things against me like that. I truly have no control over my emotions at times. It doesn't make it right!!! I know that.

I did tell him that if I was so bad to him that he should just leave.

Sorry this is so long. If you stuck with me to the end thanks!

jillian1527 · 08-12-2008, 10:45 AM

Please dont second guess yourself.. If you feel your not really in a bad mood than your probaby not. Darren all the time tries to blame me for being in a bad mood causing his bad moods and I am starting to realize that I am not being that much of a bitch. I am not saying your DH is that way but it does make me wonder. I dont know why on earth you "dressing up" for him would cause such a big up-roar. Other than maybe by that time he wasnt in the mood?

Terri · 08-12-2008, 12:01 PM

If you only knew just how awful my conversation/argument with Bill was last week about sex and me not giving it up enough - in his mega horny eyes, of coarse.

Anyway, living through my own argument last week has given me a fresh outlook on this entire topic and I've come to the conclusion (after numerous discussions with Bill) that men need to feel wanted and desired just as much as us. Maybe the fact that you had told him how you're about to *start* - he took that as your clue to 'stay away', so he already had it in his mind that you wouldn't be

and then when you jumped into bed all ready & in your thong without any prior hints or flirting he became upset. I know I'm totally guilty of just sitting back and not showing enough affection during the day/evening, where as he really does show it to me all the time. I hope that makes sense.

Also Jess, the fact that you haven't quite felt like yourself (PMDD) makes this entire situation much more sensative to you.

Take a deep breath and know that this will all blow over soon.

Koloe · 08-12-2008, 12:24 PM

Men don't make sense. Though ussually it's women who bring up fights after the fact, not men. I'm horribly guilty of it.

I would think there may have been some thing else bothering him and he used the whole sex thing to start it. And/or he may have lost the urge for bedroom sports at that time.

Jessica · 08-12-2008, 01:55 PM

He was in the mood and was worried that he wouldn't be getting any for awhile since "that time" was coming.
I honestly don't know what his deal was.
The thing that hurts me the most is that it almost seemed like he had been keeping score of how many times I was "mean". I honestly thought we had a great weekend! I thought I had done really well with keeping my emotions in check and not letting things get to me.
I guess I'll never understand him...

Koloe · 08-12-2008, 03:10 PM

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Originally Posted by Jessica

He was in the mood and was worried that he wouldn't be getting any for awhile since "that time" was coming.
I honestly don't know what his deal was.
The thing that hurts me the most is that it almost seemed like he had been keeping score of how many times I was "mean". I honestly thought we had a great weekend! I thought I had done really well with keeping my emotions in check and not letting things get to me.
I guess I'll never understand him...

Men get PMS too you know.

They just don't have friendly

visit every month for their partners to chart the cycles and mood swings by.

Jessica · 08-12-2008, 04:21 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Koloe

Men get PMS too you know.

They just don't have friendly

visit every month for their partners to chart the cycles and mood swings by.

I'm thinking that he's become the women of the relationship.

He must need some cuddling and some lovey dovey words to make him feel pretty.