I just need to write my feelings down...i don't know where to start with talking to him.....
Issue #1. Money
I have absolutly NO control over money. It really bothers me. I ask you to bring home the bills so we can pay them togeather, and you say "its more convient to pay them at work" or "You see everything at the end of the month anyway, when you file everything" It's really frustrating, when you told me we can't "afford" to get anyone Christmas presents, but then we went out and baught a 50'' plasma tv....
You used to always say "i know you can't go to the store and just get 1 thing.." You bitched when i got home from the grocery store this week, cause i spent 105. YOu bitched cause we spent 15 at the farmers market. I didn't even get half the things i needed, cause i knew you would bitch if the bill was any higher, and frankly, i'm sick of having to justify every receipt to you. I asked you to go get me lettuce from the store...you came back with hotsauce, strawberries, gum, a $10.00 scratch off, and lettuce....that REALLY pisses me off. There was other stuff I needed, but I know that if I said i need XYZ, then you would have bitched that i just went grocery shopping on Sat. Why is it ok for you, and not me?!?!?!!?
Issue #2 Mike
I agree that Mike is ahead of most in the game. I'm proud that he is going on the potty. I think you are way to hard on him. I think that if he has an accident, you should just say, ok, remember to use the potty next time, don't make a big deal, and clean it up. Same iwth poop. When I asked Mike tonight if he wanted to start wearing diapers again, or stay in underware, he said diapers. You said no, it's too exspensive. See Issue #1.
I don't agree with you telling him your gonna spank him, or that your going to hit him. I don't agree with him getting hit for hitting. Time outs work when we use them....don't threaten him with a spank. My dad used to do it to me, and it sucks. He feels like he has no control over his life...you make him do everything "now!" and you count "3-2-1!!!" It gets old....he's not in the military....
Issue # 3 Dean
Our child has food issues. I know you get it. He's refuseing solids, and you think i should shove them down his throat. The Dr told me to hold off on solids, and that we might just skip purees all together. He has a VERY sensitive stomach, and if he dosne't want something, i'm not going to force it. You telling me that you don't think he needs to go see all these drs REALLY pisses me off. I'm looking out for the best interest of our child, and i feel you are looking out for your wallet. You letting Dean put the chocolate chip cookie in his mouth last night, when he's allergic to dairy, and there was milk, egg, and butter in them...reallly made me mad....what the hell is wrong with you???? And no, he dosen't need a little dairy to "get his system used to it" we are seeing a specalist, and she's great, and i'm going to follow her advice...not yours.
Issue #4 Your Job
You always bitch that you have to be there to answer the phone, cause your dad dosen't know what he's doing. Anytime I've need to go somewhere, and I asked you to come home a 1/2 day and stay with the kids, you say you can't, or you give me a hard time, and make me feel guilty. This Thurs, you are going to a motorcycle show....you will be missing work. On Friday, you are going to a car show all day, and will be missing work AGAIN. It's ok that you miss work when it's something YOU want to do, but not when I want to do something. I want a pedicure, and you tell me that we can't "afford it" and you don't want to take care of both kids...
I could go on and on, but he's sitting here bugging me to talk to him......
Sounds more like its time to put your foot down to me ! Maybe I'm too demanding in what I expect from Bobby but there is no way in hell I would allow him to get away with not wanting to watch the kids.... um to me he should want to spend some daddy alone time with them. And to say diapers are too expensive (okay so they are) but yet he can fork out $10 for scratch off (that would have bought a whole pack)... no way! I'm sorry Jess, maybe I'm just really hormonal (or something) but I'd
03-03-2008, 09:45 PM
Dear Tony,
! Maybe I'm too demanding in what I expect from Bobby but there is no way in hell I would allow him to get away with not wanting to watch the kids.... um to me he should want to spend some daddy alone time with them. And to say diapers are too expensive (okay so they are) but yet he can fork out $10 for scratch off (that would have bought a whole pack)... no way! I'm sorry Jess, maybe I'm just really hormonal (or something) but I'd 
Sorry he isn't being more help!
