We had a long talk to other night...i ment to update but i ran out of time
He appologized for buying the stuff we didn't need, and agreed it wasn't fair. He promises to be more aware next time.
He promised to try things my way with Mike, and pay more attention to what he says. He explained that the only kids he has ever been around has been his own, and he isn't sure what to do sometimes, so he just does what "feels" natural. He said he needs me to put him in his place, and tell him what he's doing wrong in a loving way...not getting mad and give him the silent treatment. He said i'm teaching him. He said some days he just has no patience, as i have the same days.
He's agreed to try things my way with Dean....and see how it goes. He really wants me to continue to BF...he thinks it's so important. He said he dosen' tknow how to express positive reinforcment with it...he told me he didn't know if he was suposed to say "WTG feeding him with your boobs...." He's imoressed that I even found a career out of it. He promised to be more receptive to my mommy intuition.
HIs job sucks, he feels like a faliure. He dosn'e know what to do. He feels like he's invested 9 years into it, and it's not his dads fault there is no business. The economy sucks, and he's doing the best he can. He's searching for a job every day, and he only had one bite, and they never called back after the interview. He knows his dad will disown him, and no matter how much he hates his dad, he dosen't want to be disowned. The real reason he's scared to leave...and i can't believe i'm telling everyone this...cause it's going to sound sooo selfish.,...his grandmother is worth millions. She invests millions in private mtgs. She gave us 15k to put down on our house, and she purchased the building that their office is in. When she goes, his dad is the only heir to her money. Tony is hopeing that his dad will give him a good chunk. I dought he will, but if he dosen't, tony will disown his dad. It's a gamble...he knows that if he finds another job, she will croke the next day...i know that's soo awful to say, but that's the life truth.
I forget that he can't read my mind. I'm working on communicating with him, but sometimes its' hard.....he reminds me to ask for what i need, and not be embarresed. I think we are both stressed, and need to take a step back for a minute...
"Mom, put Ty back in your belly ~ he keeps touching my toys"
Glad you guys talked. It sounds like he is at least willing to work with you in regards to the kids and it is nice to hear him admit he knows he is learning.
03-05-2008, 09:13 AM
