Lordy, lordy, lordy. Hold on to your seat girls......
I know we talked about the sex topic last week, and when to have 'the talk'. But, have any of you talked to your kids yet about it???
Seems I have been pushed into having to discuss this already!
AH! I had to have the 'where do babies come from' talk with Katelynn last night. As some of you may already know, DH's ex-wife (Katelynn's Mom, Danielle) is pregnant again. She already has a 7 year old son from another man as well. This will be her third child from 3 different men...
Anyway - getting away from myself here. I wanted to explain to Katelynn 'kind-of' where babies came from. Of course, keeping it very simple and 'G' rated.
Especially with her mother being pregnant again and still not married.
We had already talked about periods (some of her friends had talked to her about periods - so I had to discuss that with her before I was ready)...but this! Lordy. I don't know if I can take it. Oh my!
Now, I was forced to have the 'sex' conversation with fear that her dead beat Mom would explain it to her in a completely
inappropriate, slutty way. I know that sounds horrible...but, if you guys knew Danielle, you would know how horrible it would be if Danielle attempted to explain it to Katelynn. The woman has NO morals herself...so, how can she explain something as delicate and special as that to her daughter. It's an impossible task!
Anyway, I started off pulling out her book "the care and keeping of YOU" and showed her the female body. Explained how we had already talked about a period and what it was. Now, I explained why the body had a period -- "to prepare a 'nest' for a baby to grow". Of course, we had the discussion of, "when you're much older, and done with all of your schooling, say 35
and get married and love someone, you may be ready to try to have a baby and bring a little miracle into this world..." But, of course, I made sure to remind her that she better get through high school, college and all of schooling before she even
thought about kissing a boy!
She gave me 'the look'...the 'You're so dumb' look. I'm sure you guys know what I mean. The look that said that I was acting ridiculous. She laughed when I said that she couldn't get married, have children or even kiss a boy until she was 35. She said, "Belinda, you're not 35!" And, I said, "Well.........good point.......but, I have higher expectations for you!!!" The look on her face was...
I swear, the girl is 9 going on 19!
Wanted to let you girls know that the conversation went well. We didn't get into the intricate details of how a woman and a man make love and create a baby and how...but, that's ok. I'm sure we will do that by next year. I didn't want to go into too much detail at this point. Baby steps. I certainly what her to know everything before she hits middle school and they have 'sex education'. The school sent home a note yesterday that said that they would be having a nurse come in and discuss periods with the girls next week...so I'm glad that we had already had that talk. Whew!
Wanted to wish all of you with 8-11 year olds good luck with the 'sex' talk if you haven't done it yet. If you have, how did it go???
02-28-2006, 04:42 PM
Where do babies come from?
