I'm falling back into the same rut of not wanting sex again. I'm tired, I can always find an exscuse, and i just don't want too. I still don't feel great..i know sex will make me feel better, as it usually does, but i just can't muster up the energy. I swore after i had the baby, we would three times a week....now i'm happy with once a month....i'm still looseing weight, and i feel really weird when he touches my boobs...i'm short tempered and everything...any ideas?
I was all set to do it last night....we even went to bed at 9:15, so we could both be asleep by 10 or so...as soon as my head hit the pillow, i was out....no desire at all...
You definately can't put to much pressure on yourself or you will feel resentment when you do
I wish I had some good advice. Sometimes just forgetting that you are tired and going for it is the ONLY way it will happen. Try setting the mood a little bit not only for DH's benefit but it should help you out.
WE are definatley in a rut also but I think it is being 8 months PG Right now it is just for function and easing DH's issues (BLUE BALLS)
Your taking care of a 2-year-old and a 2-month-old all day long. It's not surprising that you are tired. And being exhausted can easily kill any desire. Maybe you should set your sights lower and just go to bed to cuddle and if any thing happens it happens. If nothing happens, you still got some cuddle and one on one time together.
What about thinking about sex all day. Make dirty and playful comments to dh during the day. If you think about it often it will help you get in the mood easier.
Also, who says sex has to happen at night. Morning sex is the best!!
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I feel your pain and I get frustrated with myself about it. Sometimes asking him to join me in the shower starts things off. I hope things get better for you guys.
I have the opposite problem! I am at 4 weeks and can't wait for my 6 week appointment to be in the clear.. Not only am I in the mood, but I miss being able to be close like that with the DH... Of course, I don't have a 2 year old as well that I need to run after all day..(so I definitely feel for you there girlie)... Also, we were active all through my pregnancy right up to the night before I was scheduled to be induced! (it's wrong, I know lol) And yeah, I didn't always feel like it at the time (because I did get tired).. but I usually just reminded myself that once things got going I would like it and always end up happy that we did do it.. PLUS I wanted to get that baby out, and would do anything to make that happen lol :) I wouldn't give yourself a quota each week, then you will feel even more pressure to do it.. I agree with the others, just set the mood and go with the flow :) Hopefully it will get better :)
I have the opposite problem! I am at 4 weeks and can't wait for my 6 week appointment to be in the clear.. Not only am I in the mood, but I miss being able to be close like that with the DH... Of course,
You really don't have to wait 6 weeks if you don't want to. If you feel up to it, it's perfectly fine to start sooner. I think the whole wait 6 weeks started so women could tell their DHs to bug off.
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Also, we were active all through my pregnancy right up to the night before I was scheduled to be induced! (it's wrong, I know lol)
Nothing wrong with it, might have even got things started so you wouldn't have had to induce. Too bad it didn't work. Most midwives recommend it before going to drugs for induction.
11-16-2007, 12:25 PM
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three times a week....now i'm happy with once a month....i'm still looseing weight, and i feel really weird when he touches my boobs...i'm short tempered and everything...any ideas? 
Right now it is just for function and easing DH's issues (BLUE BALLS) 
Hopefully it will get better :)
