Spice it up

RetromamaJess · 06-15-2007, 11:04 PM

Ok ladies, I suck in the bedroom, I won't lie (I can't believe I just said that

)

I have no creativness, and i'm a creature of habbit. I'm going to get REALLY personal, and ask how you spice it up...We have done the same things/same positions for 8 yrs, and it's time for a change!

Last night I let him put his finger in the back hole. Wasn't as bad as I anticipated, but i'm scared to let him put anything bigger back there if you know what I mean

He wants to try, but i'm really scared....I finally got things coming out of there normal, I don't want to jepordize that

Today he wanted me to play with myself while he watched. I really hesitated, but I know that if we don't make a change, things are never going to get better, so I did, and I actually enjoyed it

I've NEVER done that before.

The ONLY way I have EVER had an O was me being on top. Having his watch me masturbate (is that actually what I did?!?!) was kind of a turn on, and it worked

What else can we try/do?!?! I really need some sugestions!

Jessica · 06-16-2007, 01:28 AM

Have you ever just taken the lead? Just jumped on dh and pleased him first? (I so can't believe I'm giving sex advice

) There has been times where I knew dh was really stressed and since sex is a good stress reliever I wanted to help him out. For some reason pleasing him and seeing him really turned on works for me.

Todash · 06-16-2007, 11:24 AM

As far as anal sex, lots and lots of lube, and he has to go really slow at first. Let him know he needs to follow your lead.

YEAH! for giving him a sex show. Most guys I know love watching a woman touch herself. Mark and I even have masturbatathons.

I know, TMI.

Try wear something different. I know for Mark, seeing me in just a big t shirt with nothing else on drives him nuts. So, to be mean, I will walk around that way. Gets him all riled up.

Give him a spur of the moment BJ. Say he his washing his hands at the kitchen sink. Go up behind him and start playing with him. Don't let him doing anything to you, just you do to him. Yank his pants down and get him off.

I need to go take a cold shower now.

jillian1527 · 06-16-2007, 11:58 AM

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Originally Posted by Todash

As far as anal sex, lots and lots of lube, and he has to go really slow at first. Let him know he needs to follow your lead.

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and relax.. if your anxious or tense at all it will hurt.(Way TMI but if he O's that way it doesn't create a problem 'going' for me) you can also do the same for him if your going down on him.. lube your finger really well though.
I also like the idea of walking around in something teasing and then tease him when you do get into bed.. you can also use something to tie one another up.. the teasing and foreplay can be a lot of fun.. as well as a good unexpected quickie.
there are so many different things to do.TOYS!!! They are great in helping you O.
and any more you don't have to go to the sex shops, although it can be exciting to go in together,a great discrete catalog and on-line company is Adameve.com.
You don't suck in the bedroom!!I think its awesome that your comfortable enough to do this for your marriage. You do want to be sure you don't do anything out of your comfort zone though. it can make this really bad really quick.
ok now ya'll know what kinda perv I am.

Jessica · 06-16-2007, 01:19 PM

I agree with wearing something that you know will make dh hot! Jeremy loves it when I go braless with a thin, tight, white shirt. That is something I will do just to tease him. (TMI) I slept in one last night. This morning I was up before he left so I did a little "streching". It got his attention and he went to work smiling.

Maybe I'm weird but the one time Jeremy went anal I made him wear a condom. I did that just incase he wanted to go vaginal afterwards.

We're such dirty girls.

Emma · 06-16-2007, 01:35 PM

The girls have some great advice

We have made a few purchases through Xandria.com. They are very discrete and you can call them with any questions you have. We will sometimes buy something as a surprise for one another. You go girl!! Have fun