Change in the ability to O?

jillian1527 · 02-09-2006, 04:28 PM

dear me.. what a title.LOL!
I never used to have a problem with being able to until I got Preggers with Ty or else when I was on antidepressants. Now I just cant seem to get the job done. I don't know if its DH or me. Some times it just doesn't seem to feel the same. He was a section baby so I know thats not why and Dh says hes not changed anything.
Its getting rather frustrating.

now that I have all that out there and

anyone else having this problem?

sophiasmommy · 02-09-2006, 04:45 PM

sorry you're having troubles. i never had a problem with o until i got pregnant. i think it was mostly because i was sooooo tired. could that be part of the problem?

Emma · 02-09-2006, 04:52 PM

I had a big problem with it when I was pg, but it's gotten better. I will say that it's not near as explosive as it used to be

Do you think a little extra lube might help, glass of wine, or even a toy? Sorry if I'm oversteping any boundries here, but it's important to explore anything that might help in this area, KWIM?

Amanda05 · 02-09-2006, 04:56 PM

I find that when I am tense (like if Maddox has already waken up that night) I have to concentrate really hard to get one!

Could your mind be else where?

jillian1527 · 02-09-2006, 05:19 PM

Thanks for the replies. We have and sometimes use all those things Emma, so no oversteping at all there. But it made me relize that maybe time and trying to hurry before some chlid needs something is the problem. So that mixed with knowing that its most likely going to be interupted is the problem. and yes I seem to always be tired.

UGH. I miss the quickies that end in an O. I may just need to drink a beer before hand and see if that helps take my mind off the kids. (but then I will be thinking how I am only working off the beer points

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Emma · 02-09-2006, 05:33 PM

Well, light beer is like 2 points, same as a glass of wine or shot of hard liquor. You would just have to have 40 minutes of "activity" to burn that off

I find that when I'm tense at the end of the day because of work, kids or talking about bills, a glass of wine does wonders for getting me to relax. It'll happen sweetie, try not to get frustrated cuz that just adds to the problem

Amanda05 · 02-09-2006, 05:42 PM

I drink a glass of wine pretty much everynight. I find it helps me wind down!! Although now that DH is leaving in 1 week I will lose my wine drinking partner

May have to drop that habbit. I didn't realize it was 2 points though

Jillian I think what you are experiencing can be normal with all the added stresses of a baby. I hate having to rush it! Maddox is still in are room and doesn't sleep as deep as he once did

So now we have to get comfy else where which makes me worry about my other ds

Man I miss the days were all you were thinking about was what is going on right then!!!

All in time!