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Ariann, The authorities are aware and are doing their investigations (as far as I know). This is no 'secret' on our end. I'm very disturbed at how much she's trying to cover this up.
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Ariann, The authorities are aware and are doing their investigations (as far as I know). This is no 'secret' on our end. I'm very disturbed at how much she's trying to cover this up.
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And that is exactly where it should be taken, by those people who know and love her and are looking out for her best interests. Banning her from the one support group she has here at DDB, does not help her get better. It isolates her more. Again, all she might be able to be accused of here is lying. Maybe she is afraid, ashamed, and making some really wrong decisions. But until she crosses the line ON DDB, she shouldn't be banned. I understand what you are trying to do, force her stop lying and face the truth of what is really going on inside her because you all are concerned about her, but I think there are much more effective ways to do that without isolating her.
I'm done with posting in this thread. I'm not angry or upset with anything. The site is Donna's and ultimately it is her choice, I just want to voice my beliefs and feelings. I hope Tricia finds someone who will stick with her through this very hard time, keep encouraging her to get the help she seems to need, and to help her learn to love herself again. It's just too bad that we aren't allowed to help her through this.
I really think this thread should be closed.
All in all, this is a very sad situation. I have looked at all of YOU as friends and I'm sure the same goes for Donna and Belinda. I'm sure that this wasn't an easy decision or one made in haste.
I will be praying for Tricia and her family. That is the one thing that I know she needs right now!
Life is not about YOU. Put your big girl panties on, grow up & deal w/ it!
I completely understand for those who still don't know the complete story how horrible this seems. And, I acknowledge your frustration with this. But, all I can say is that it's much, much deeper than what's been revealed here so far.
I still care for Tricia and always will. I hope that she finds the help and guidance that she needs. I understand that this is going to be a life-long battle for her and I am not judging her for that. Who am I to judge anyone? I'm more disappointed that she still has not come clean with everyone and is still covering up the truth. If this is what she chooses, then so be it. I cannot make that decision for her.
Some members will want to naturally continue personal relationships with Tricia outside the board. We understand that and support that decision if it's the decision you choose to make. Outside the board. No one is questioning the fact that she needs help and friends to lean on, we are merely stating that THIS board is not the place for her at this time.
I really didn’t know Tricia but I pray that she finds a way through this. I support Donna, Terri and Belinda as I know they are only doing what it right for us.
My thoughts and prays are truly for the children which i have not heard mention in this thread other than Tricias thoughts about them. I do not know them or how this has affected them. I can only pray that they are kept safe and secure and from there it is all up to the authorities who I hope handling things professionally and thoroughly. Does anyone actually know how they are?
Mommy2Caleb posted a very insightful post - a couple of them actually. I take it all to heart and want you all to understand that yes, I do want Tricia to face her demons and deal with the truth of the situation. Until we face the things we don't like, we cannot begin to change anything for the better. I never stopped talking to Tricia... she stopped talking to me. I am a hard person to talk to if you don't want to hear the truth. She has gone for several months before without wanting to speak to me, b/c of something I have said. I never take it personally... I always hope that she takes that time to reflect on the things I have said and find the heart of the message and where it comes from - my heart. We all make decisions in our life - or should try to make decisions - that we can live with and that we can sleep with ourselves at night after making. I do not feel good about telling her story as it was her personal information to share or not to share, but if that post of mine brings her any closer to dealing with her issues, then it will all be worth it... even if it means losing the respect of some on here. Like I said, I make decisions that I can live with, b/c ultimately the only person I have to look in the mirror every day is myself.
I sincerely hope that some of you who know and love Tricia will be able to offer her the support in a manner that is helpful to her. It is clear, that I was not that soul.
Wow. I know I'm not on here much these days, other than to update about our adoption or to occasionally lurk to see how everyone else is doing... so I hope no one minds me posting on this. I just wanted to say that I completely trust Donna's decision and though I don't know the entire story, having pieced together enough of it (I think) I would have done the same.
Support is only as good as it is honestly received - if someone with serious mental issues is using it only as a manipulative outlet, and not as an actual way to help cope with an issue, it's no longer a positive thing for either party involved. Instead it simply feeds the unstable person and their idea that the world exists to hurt them or hold them up and draws other people into a skewed version of reality. My mom has been dealing with clinical depression and bipolar disorder her entire life and the kind of support she needs is not to be found on an online forum, and in fact would make things worse for both her and the friends she was manipulating. She has refused to get the professional and medicinal help she needs and has instead spent the last 3 decades constantly hurting and frightening those around her, all the while falling deeper and deeper into her own world.
I do hope that anyone who knows the situation in real life takes any steps needed to keep those kids safe - you can't cure some things in a short stay in a hospital, and some distance between her and the most vulnerable members of her family would probably be the best thing - maybe that's something a friend can help with.
I hope she gets the help she needs, from a source that can truly help her cope, and no one else is hurt in the process - emotionally or physically. To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 1 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
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