Need help with Baptisim

RetromamaJess · 11-09-2005, 10:37 AM

We are Baptizing Michael on Sunday, 11/20. I want to have people over afterwards for some light stuff, like maybe fruit, coffee and danishes. (It's the 10:30 mass) How do I word that on the invitations?

I am going to get the invitations today and hopefully get them out in the mail this afternoon. Thanks!

jillian1527 · 11-09-2005, 10:42 AM

Maybe something like refreshments served at home after service? I'm no good with Grammar. Good luck!

Todash · 11-09-2005, 10:46 AM

Please join us for light refreshments at our house after the baptism.

I don't know. :)

Kris · 11-09-2005, 12:24 PM

On ours, I simply put : "Open House brunch to follow in our home."

We served fruit, danish, bagels with cream cheese, cream puffs, pumpkin and pecan pie tarts, and cake.

It was awesome!!

Congrats on Michael's baptism! Obviously you worked out the Godparent situation!! =)

RetromamaJess · 11-09-2005, 01:32 PM

I wouldn't say we "worked it out", we just went to a non-Catholic church. And now that I have everything all booked with the church, and everything ordere...dh just tells me he feels over whelmed and he dosne't want to do it now...so now i have to look like an idiot and call the church and tell them never mind...i put all this hard work into it, and i just made all the invitations out...i'm pissed

Dh and I are in this huge fight now because of it...

Kris · 11-09-2005, 03:17 PM

OH, that's too bad, I'm sorry. =(

I'm curious though... are you planning to raise your child in the Catholic church? If so, a Catholic baptism would be such a blessing!

I hope you and your dh can work things out with regards to this situation!!

RetromamaJess · 11-09-2005, 03:30 PM

right now i'm so mad with the Catholic church, I can't see straight

I don't know how we are going to raise him yet...

Kris · 11-09-2005, 09:38 PM

Is it just over the Godparent issue, or is there more to it?

You do understand why a Jewish person can't be the Godparent of a Catholic child though, right? I can't imagine how difficult it is for you, when you really want one person and are insistant upon it. But, the role of a Godparent is more than just a title of honor, it is a title of obligation, and a Jewish person simply can not fulfill the duties required, it's that simple.

I'm not trying to pick at you or debate with you or anything. I'm just trying to help you understand the reasonings behind the ruling. I know it doesn't seem fair, but you really do want what's best for your child's faith foundation when you are looking into chosing a Godparent. If you are looking to give somone a title of honor, make that person an honorary aunt or uncle.

I am not trying to be harsh, and I'm assuming there is more to it. I can try to understand and help you, if there is anything I can do.

I was raised Catholic and went through the RCIA program as an adult because I was never confirmed. I've been a religious ed teacher for several years, and also a sponsor for a Catechumen. So, I have a very good understanding of the "rules and regulations" -- though when it comes to the moral stuff, I'm out the window - as I'm very liberal and don't happen to agree with some of the teachings of the church, and our new archbishop irritates me no end. So, I'm not a "perfect Catholic" by any stretch of the imagination. But, when it comes to the basics and dogma.... I pretty much know my stuff.

I'd love to help ease your pain with regards to the church. I'm not a nutso or anything, I just feel sad reading your posts, and would love to help, if I'm able.

(I was going to insert a smiley here..but don't see one that exactly fits.... so "HUG" to you. :) )

RetromamaJess · 11-09-2005, 10:50 PM

Kris,
Yes, I understand what a Godparent is, and I totally understand why DH best friend can't do it with the church. My dh is catholic(not practicing by any means, didn't even make his communion) and when we tried to get married in the catholic church, they flat out told us they would not marry us, because of the scan tron results. They sat us in seperate rooms, and made us fill out these scan tron tests. We had to go to this elderly couples house to go over the results...turns out DH christmas tree'd the whole thing

They gave us some long lecture about how we don't fit in to the church (dh's answeres were that he was a sex feen, and that he like little boys

he never opened up the book, just colored in a big "t" on his answer sheet...it was very obveous he didn't read any of the questions...)The Father called us and told us that we are not ment for the Catholic church (After years of me going to Catholic school...)
DH has never really liked what the Catholic church is all about. He feels it is a buisness, and they are only out to make money. (Not trying to start a debate, it's just DH oppinion) When I decided I wanted Michael baptized, I decided that I was going to do whatever it took. DH said he would stand by me, since it was so important to me. We called the church his Aunt belongs to, and became parishoners. They told us the only way they would know if we were there was through our envelopes making it into the donation every week. Fine, I have no problem going to church and donating some money. We were giving 2.00 a week. When the church called me to get things set up, I explained that I understood that we only needed 1 catholic to be a Godparent. I told them that I wanted Tony's sister, but she refused to go to church, so I was going to make my Grandma the Godmother and let his sister stand in as proxy. The Father told me the only way that he would baptize our son is if we started giving 50.00 a week, and we HAD to make DH aunt the Godmother. We are not close to her, and we don't want her to be the Godparent. He started arguing with me, and told me we weren't giving enough, and that we need to start giving more. He asked for copies of our tax returns so we could prove to him we were giving all we could afford.

By this time in the conversation, the baby was screaming, and I was PISSED....I told the Father this catholic thing isnt for me and I hung up on him...that's why I'm so mad at the Church....

Maybe later on in life we will baptize him Catholic, but as of right now, I need to heal because I am so hurt...